Dear Gentle Writer

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So I haven’t actually done much blogging lately.  I suppose you noticed, too, huh?  I haven’t had much to blog about but I came up with a new weekly blog idea, if I have enough interest.  It’s called Dear Gentle Writer and it’s a place for writers to anonymously ask questions about writing, or publishing or whatever is on their mind.  If you have a question, feel free to email me at gentlewriter @

Our first Dear Gentle Writer Letter comes from Ann in New England.  Ann writes:

I’m an agented, struggling romance writer who can’t seem to catch a break.  After reading some recently published romance, I noticed the main characters had very little in the way of internal conflict.  Also, one party seemed to be madly in love with the other.  Both realizations left me wondering, overall, where’s the beef?  Er conflict.  And am I trying to hard to create (real) conflict in my books?  Is that why I can’t sell?

Dear Ann in New England,

You have an agent so take heart.  Someone out there realizes how fabulous you are.  Otherwise, I’m afraid I don’t read a lot of romance so I hesitate to tell you to tone down the conflict in your books.  Let’s ask our gentle blog readers.  Maybe they can shed some light for you.  Do you agree or disagree w/Ann?  Have you had similar troubles?  Or is Ann just full of Clam Chowder?  And if you’re an Avid Reader, have you noticed this phenomenon in published romances???

(And as long as things don’t get ugly, I’m open to anonymous comments)

2 thoughts on “Dear Gentle Writer

  1. My books wouldn’t work without a strong internal conflict. All of my favorite romances have internal conflict. Now that conflict may (should) stem from the external conflict. It adds depth to the story. Internal conflict is the reason why the h/h are fighting their HEA. They can’t have it until they solve whatever is holding them back i.e. internal conflict. So, the only true difference I see is if the supposed conflict is just angst.

    My advice, if other authors want to short change their stories and their readers let them. Not selling can be the cause of a million other things.